The semester has begun, which means we’ve made it to another scholastic year — yessss. *pats self on the back* However, there are things physiologically that demand maturation.
As you may or may not know, I’m currently studying aboard in Dakar, Senegal 🙂 I live with a host family in their four-story, Mediterranean-style home (believe me when I say it is b-e-a-u-tiful). Anyway, I took the liberty of doing some exercise on the terrace where I realized something about myself. I really don’t like gyms and prefer isolation when working out. This preference doesn’t really fly with visible campus culture, which prescribes fitness as a result of going to the gym.
I’m using this as an ode to all people who ever feel pressed to do something because others are doing it. If you don’t want to do something, you’re worthy of saying no.
One thing about college campus culture is that we’re always talking about how we should go to the gym, especially when we see our friends going. But if it’s not for you sis don’t go!! We need to stop feeling obligated to do things to match the status quo.
Realize that you make your own standards of fitness, beauty, appearance, education, and so on. There’s no need to adhere to anyone else’s standards, because we only gain temporary happiness from playing that game. Genuine, care-free, and unwavering happiness happens when you do things for you.
So no it’s ok I prefer not to go to the gym, I’ll do my thing here — but I’m sending prosperous energies to you.
You haven’t met yourself yet, but the advantage to meeting others in the meantime.. it is that one of them may present you to yourself.
Use these interactions as opportunities to learn yourself, to figure out what aligns with your desires. This type of clarity will bring you closer to fulfilling your purpose on Earth.
I’m setting an expectation for myself to address as many situations as I can with this mindset. Feel like joining the self-love challenge with me?